Dear Audrey

Okay so, my friend Antonio and I used to be in the same class, but in our new highschool we aren’t even in the same school. I am at a privet school, and he is at a co-ed school across town. Mid last year, he had been sucidal, severely depressed, and suffered from anxiety, but had become much happier by the end of the year. I thought he was actually getting out of that headspace, though I think his anxiety was still coming and going.

He was the only non-white person in his class, he faced a little bit of casual racisim, but seemed to be feeling okay about the school, as he knew how to laugh it off in order to stay safe. But in the third week or so he was bullied, and forced to come out by his class, as Bisexual. After that, they would do things like push him around, touch him without consent, or even once they sprayed hand sanitiser in his eyes. I want to help him, but I don’t know how. Can you help me?

From, Miranda

Dear Miranda

Woah. That is a horrible thing to happen to your friend, send my condolances to Antonio. You are an amazing friend for wanting to do something for your friend but there isn’t alot you can do alone, at a different school. But there are two things I suggest.

1. You have to keep checking in with your friend, to ensure he doesn’t become suicidal again. This must be your priority! If you believe he will commit suicide, call a hotline, or any other type of child support (for example, if you are in New Zealand, Youthline).

2. If you feel comfortable, then you could find the email of your friends teacher and contact them about the issue. If you believe it is really bad, then go higher, the dean, or even the principal.

I am so sorry, this is a difficult problem to solve. I hope you are okay, I’m sure this is taking a toll on you. Good luck with this.

From, Audrey