Dear Audrey,

I’ve been nervous recently about coming to my new highschool since it’s mostly filled with asians. I’m not saying I’m racist I’m Asian myself but based on my experiences when I was younger people in my old school were very picky with choosing people especially to be popular. They even had rules like never showing your most vulnerable state in public or always make sure to look good. Can you give me specific advices on how to befriend them easily?

From, Athena

Dear Athena

That is an intresting dilema. You want to make friends with the popular kids, basically, but you’re afraid they’ll be judgy or unwilling to let you into their inner circle. Keep in mind that these kinds of friendships aren’t always healthy, and quality over quantity definitely applies to friendships as well as many other things. But if you’d still like to have some tips, here are a few I brainstormed!

1. Aproach the people you percevie as the “popular” kids and introduce yourself as you would to any other student you meet,
2. What do they like doing in their free time? If you look into some of their hobbies, then you can bond over mutual intrests.
3. Observe the social dynamics of their friendships, are they exclusive kind of popular, or the let-everyone-in-kind of popular?
4. If they seem exclusive, then rather than trying too hard to make them see how awesome you are, show them by not caring as much about the ‘‘social heirarchy’’ that is highschool.
5. If they aren’t an exclusive popular group, then just talk to them! Some people seem less aproachable than they are, so just give it a shot!

I hope this advice is helpful, and I’d love to hear from you again, maybe we can do a part two, if you need any further advice!

From, Audrey